About Love, Hugs and Kisses

Love is a psycho-physical subject matter working at both levels of feelings in hearts of two persons for each other and fulfillment of physical needs of each other. Hugs and kisses are its physical dimensions and work as improvers in a relationship. A loving relationship remains incomplete and wanting without mutual hugs and kisses, while a sex-play is not that important. That is why even very senior persons keep on loving each other without sex-plays, but go for hugs and kisses for maintaining the relationship.

Online contacts through social media provide rich opportunity for coming into contacts of persons of varied cultures and backgrounds. Persons in contact may develop understanding about each other, check for their mutual suitability and compatibility, and initiate a loving relationship for maturing it through physical contacts, suitably.          

Hug

Taking a person in arms and setting them close to heart is called a 'hug', very popular in all forms of life, like an instinct. It amounts to exchange of body warmth and sensing of body frequency for creating resonance. For affecting a hug, the best way is to press boobs of the beloved between the two chests. The cushioning affect so sensed improves blood circulation in the two bodies, leading to improvement in wellness.

Kiss

Word 'kiss' has been lightly taken by people in the western world, though they don't practice it like they use the word. A kiss is the most intimate contact of two persons having love for each other. It involves exchange of saliva of the two persons, which affect their feelings for each other. Saliva is the essence made by body from finest part of nutrition received by the body from food and other inputs. Its primary purpose is to keep the mouth cavity tissues moist, soft and flexible for their respective efficient performances in creating voice and facial expressions, and rejuvenating taste buds. Taste buds work as primary sensors of food attributes and signal the digestive system to get ready for accepting the food intake and digesting that. Thus, saliva is the prime necessity of body to get nutrition for its rejuvenation and tissue maintenance and repair functions. Exchange of saliva between two persons creates harmony of two bodies, hence is essential for developing and up-keeping a sweet relationship.

Lips are the primary instruments of affecting a kiss, for which the lips have evolved with a lot of flexibility and manipulation capability. Next organ used in a kiss is the tongue tip entering the other's mouth and caressing inner walls of the cavity to spread its own saliva and pick-up that of the beloved person. Saliva of the beloved is intoxicating to the person cultivating an urge for getting more of it. More the exchange of saliva between two lovers, deeper is the development of the relationship. It is noteworthy here that transfusion of blood from one person to another doesn't affect their relationship in any way, but a kiss does so through exchange of saliva.

This throws light on a loving relationship developed through online contacts between two persons located remotely with understanding each other. Completion of such a relationship takes place only when they meet, hug and kiss each other.

6 Elements of Harmonious Living

Every moment of your life is precious because you get it only once and it passes on whether you misuse it, disuse it or make the best out of it. Purpose of living a moment, every moment should be getting a happy feel. There are only 6 elements of living which are indispensable for each and every human-being. And, mind their order of priority as provided by their placements below.

Beware, the 6 subheads below may sound well-known to you through noises all around from vested interests to drive you crazy and loosen your purse for them, but the senses I attach to them are different from what you may be knowing. So, please check out precisely through the details.

Your Inspirations

Forces in the form of persons, nature and wherever you put your faith on are your inspirations like the air you breathe in every moment of your life. They are the sources of your spiritual strength you need every moment of your life. But these sources may be misguiding you too, if you have not chosen them by yourself but gone by advices of others, your routine education, or as told to you by your parents and social contacts. Religion is such a mischievous guide often thought to be an inspiring force.

Your parents must be the first and foremost inspirations for you but not their advices on other inspirations. Problem of modern parents is that either they are too busy to be too good, or too misguided to be too bad to you. Respect them as your parents, but judge their ways of life lest these corrupt your life too.

What is not realizable by you through your intellect and wisdom of your sensory organs can't be an effective inspiration to you. The best inspiration is one that moves with you every moment of your life and inspires you at your pace. Some books may pass this test, so are their authors - living or dead.

Some people opine that a spiritual guru is a must for uplifting force of life. This is sheer nonsense. If you need a real guru, go to your primary school teacher or someone like him - the greatest one to inspire you so far. For final guidance in this matter, ask your own spirit of life and none else.  

Your Spirit  

Apart from owning the physical persona, you are a spirit composed of your wisdom and intellect, built on your instincts, education and experiences so far. Your self-esteem, self-confidence, value system, etc are important attributes of your spirit. Respect these and keep these beyond bargains of your routine and commercial life.

Your spirit is your guide every moment of your life, particularly in moments of distress and excitements.    

Your Persona

Basically your health is your persona but it extends beyond that to what is usually known as your personality that includes everything in you including your spirit of life, discussed above. It is built through breathing in clean air, intakes of healthy food, body-care for protection from climatic extremities through clothing and shelter, physical hurts, etc and regular physical movements of your organs - for productive work, a creative endeavor or an exercise. Better use your physical movements for productive purposes and for saving yourself from paying for others services to you. Better be self-reliant as far as possible.

Your mental health is an important part of your persona as it is that of your spirit. It is ultimately determined by the concepts of life you pursue in your routines, relationships and profession. Being crazy, having a craving, getting excited or distressed often, etc are indicators of bad mental health. Some people consider a good memory as an indicator of mental health which I beg to differ seriously. In my view, it is immaterial what you forget but what you remember is important as an indicator of your mental health.

Outcomes of a healthy persona are your feeling healthy every moment, your impressive looks, and your sensuality for healthy relationships with your chosen persons. Never mind if you are not accommodative to everyone for your family and social relationships. None is made to accommodate all.   

Your Relationships

Each one of us has relationships, or is expected to have, in four sectors - with the self, within the family, within one's society, and with professional colleagues, superiors and subordinates. Anybody failing in having a sweet relationship with the self would fail in making any relationship of some value. Loving your own values is the criterion of relating to the self.

It is better to have good relationship with everyone coming in contact, but it is the best to take care of your value system through your relationships too. So, don't worry if you are at variance with some persons in your contacts.

Again, it is not important whom you drop from developing sweet relationships, but it is critical whom you keep in contacts. Ultimately, you are known by the company you keep. So, don't tarnish your image by pleasing everyone, be your real self in developing relationships.  

Your Aspirations

Etymologically as well as in practice, aspirations are set just opposite to inspirations - former for influencing the external world and the latter for getting influenced by the external world. Human life has a purpose of coming into existence and living for a long period of time for is intellectual evolution.

Every work has an intellectual value in it, respect it, enhance it and continue with it. This makes every moment of life a moment of intellectualism. So, live purposefully every moment - at home, at work and even during a relaxation. Set your goals on long term, medium term, short term and even for every momentary step of your life and move on with them.  

Your Economy

Human life has evolved differently from natural way of living, hence has economic considerations at every moment of it. Take care of your personal economy through working productively enough for a living and support to the family. But don't nullify yourself with the productivity syndrome - keep on working for wealth losing health and other pleasures of living. Keep a balance between personal, working, family and social life. For an average person, recommended durations are 12, 6, 4 and 2 hours, respectively, on an average in a day for a happy and contented lifestyle.