Showing posts with label Personality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Personality. Show all posts

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Introversion is a Precious Asset of Personality

A so-called expert recently characterized ‘Introverts’ as those preferring less of stimulation from external sources. I differ with this perception of introversion, and would like to call it an attribute that stimulates the external environment to the least possible degree. The difference in the two perceptions is quite alarming, being the difference of preference of the person about inputs or outputs.
An introvert person does not like to project him/herself to others but likes to be contented with the self. Introversion is not related to the person’s interest in others but to interest in him/herself. Of course, this also results in his/her liking for minimal stimulation from the environment.
According to psychologists, one half to one third of persons of a society are introverts depending on their respective social cultures. Let us see here what is introversion and what it is not, to understand its significance in life.
Introverts often envy extroverts about their ways, and try to imitate to be like them. Anybody, trying to pose who he/she is not, is bound to fail. Whenever, an introvert imitates an extrovert, he/she fails and thus, entering a phase of losing self-confidence and cultivating a feeling of shame and inferiority complex in him/herself.
There is no person an introvert or an extrovert in absolute terms, but everyone is a mix of introversion and extroversion, with different individuals naturally gifted these traits in different proportions. One must cultivate in him/herself the attributes in which he/she is rich in.

What the introversion is Not
The Introversion is not shame, shyness, or suppression of one’s talent, as many extroverts would like to assume. Let us see some such negative traits are and their difference with introversion.
Shame
An important factor keeping some persons keeping away from sights of others is shame for a feeling of guilt for some mistake committed by them. However, if the person realizes his/her mistake and commits not to repeat it, there is no need of being ashamed about. We all may commit mistakes in-spite of our working with good intentions. Those who don’t work, commit no mistake but the blunder of not-working.
Introversion is not same as being ashamed for something about the self. However, a shame may make a person introvert, but an introvert is not necessarily ashamed of anything. Introversion, in itself, is not a shame.
Shyness
Shyness is a fear of going wrong in front of others so, a shy person hesitates in presenting him/herself to others in general, but for no particular reason about his/her conduct. Shyness is born out of lack of self-confidence in the person and hence lack of contentment from the self. Introversion does not make a person deficient in self-confidence or contentment, but on the contrary, an introvert is more contented by the self that an extrovert who is dependent on others for contentment from the self.
Not Suppression of the Talent
Introversion is not suppression of one’s talents as most extroverts opine. Introverts show their talents using media which are quite different from those used by extroverts. For example, an extrovert is often a good orator while an introvert might be in another field like authorship, designing, invention, etc.
The art of extroversion has an essential component of impressing others – truly or falsely. There is no place for impressing others in an introvert’s agenda. His/her objective is to produce the desired results calmly. Therefore, while an extrovert reserves a big chunk of his/her energies for impressing others leaving less for the actual performance, while an introvert puts all his/her energy into the performance. The extroverts create apparent results fast but transient while introverts create slow yet long-lasting results.
Reading, studying, inventing, meditating, designing, thinking, cooking…or any number of other quiet and worthwhile activities are favorite pastimes of introverts while the extroverts spend most of their time and energies in talking.
The introverts don’t project or hide their talents, but keep on using it and leave it to others to appreciate rather than project these to impress others like the extroverts keep on doing. Thus, the introverts make better use of their capabilities than that by extroverts.

What the Introversion consists of
Introversion is a state of mind that is constituted of many other subordinate attributes of mind, such as modesty, creativity, scientific temper, etc.
Modesty
Modesty is keeping reserve in front of elders as a display of respect to them. It used to be highly appreciated in women and expected from civilized women. This is now considered an old-fashioned trait complied by rural women in developing and under-developed societies. Modern and western-cultured women are allergic to this word, once considered to be an ornament of the women. In fact, modesty is an ornament for every human-being but not understood and appreciated by wild beasts.
Silent Creativity
Indeed, creativity is always silent, and its chosen home is introversion. Extroversion is an impediment to creativity. Most of the creative endeavors are from introverts only, however many of these are stolen by extroverts and projected as theirs. This has been the traditional job of extroverts.
Scientific Temper
As said in my previous article on comparative study of Art and Science, introverts are gifted with scientific temper better than extroverts. However, extroverts have a knack of materialization of scientific concepts. All scientific developments are gifts from introverts to the humanity with a majority of extroverts.

How Introverts and Extroverts Differ

Introverts have a world of their own different from that of the extroverts, for some exclusive differences between the two groups of people.
Thinking and Expressing
An extrovert often says before thinking and may repent later, while an introvert thinks before saying something to ensure not to go wrong. This is also indicative that introverts are more sensitive and sensible than the extroverts. Even then, extroverts manage their lives better than introverts are able to do for their wide gap in manovering capabilities.
Doing and getting things Done
Extroverts are better mangers than the performing creed of introverts. Therefore, while introverts can perform better than extroverts, but the extroverts know better how to get a thing done. This may be said to be better managing capability of extroverts.
Extroverts suffer from a psychosis of taking credit for others’ works, so are not liked by performers – mostly introverts. This develops a general disliking to an extrovert. For the same reason, performers prefer to work with and under introverts. This makes introverts to be better leaders than the extroverts.
Group-working
Introverts prefer working in solitude, therefore, often fail in group working often organized in schools and training and appraisal exercises to enhance creativity and productivity in individuals through induction from others. Although, this may bring some introverts out from their cells of introversion, for most other introverts, such exercises prove detrimental sowing seeds of inferiority complex in them.
In a group environment, introverts fail to express their dissent even if they may have it. This leads to suppression of their feelings and may cause complications in personalities of introverts, such as shame or inferiority complex.
Usually, introverts are often considered inferior by extroverts, but the introverts have no negative feelings about themselves or the extroverts, hence are more humane and with positive outlook about others. The extroverts often suffer from superiority complex.

What Introverts must Realize
1.    Introversion is a better way of living in the sense that introverts keep their ultimate goal in focus while extroverts try to derive maximum benefits for themselves by dominating and exploiting others and their innovative ideas. Thus, introverts make better business leaders than the extroverts. In fact, most of the people prefer working under introverts rather than under extroverts. Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks and most of the world’s greatest philosophers have been introverts.
2.    Introverts are made for being creative rather than being productive. They must focus and remain limited to the field of their strength – the creativity.

3.    Everyone is an introvert to some degree as even an extrovert works through first being an introvert.

Monday, May 25, 2015

Why nobody Truly Knows Anybody Else


We work under presumptions of knowing other persons in our contacts, but individuality of each of us is too complex to be understood by anybody else. If mutual knowing of two persons were possible, there would remain no possibility of misunderstanding between them. Since we often notice misunderstandings and disputes among persons familiar to each other, we may safely infer that the two persons were not knowing each other. Not only that, even most of the persons fail in knowing themselves that is why they take wrong decisions about matters fully under their own control. Most of the sicknesses among humanity are results of this misunderstanding of the self.

Dimensions of an Individual

A person's existence gets expressive in three dimensions - physical, mental and intellectual through the three organs body, mind and brain, respectively. A living body is a passive organic system having many subsystems interwoven and supportive of each other functionally. It functions under partial control of the mind, and the body and the mind combination functions under overall control of the brain. Thus, the brain is the supreme commander of an individual.
From practical experiences, we know that even supreme commanders fail in exercising full control over their domains with the result that elements of domains become undisciplined and even revolt occasionally against their supreme commanders. Similar is the situation with the command line of the body, mind and brain.

Reason for Indiscipline

Like the practical life incidences, the command line fails for control of the supreme commander being indirect with a hierarchy of mediators in between the ultimate domain and the supreme commander. In case of an individual, the mind is the mediator between the body and the brain which plays its own tricks in between to gain more authority over the body. Tricks of the mind are termed as wisdom of the individual, which gets played often in conflict with the intellect of the person.

Wisdom and Intellect Conflict

Wisdom of an individual is applied with sole purpose of getting things done for the body in accordance of her wishes which may not be appropriate always for the negative human traits raising their heads through the body. All crimes by humans are committed for these negative traits with full support of the individual's mind and justified by the wisdom of the self. For this reason, each criminal tries to justify his/her committed crime. Wisdom doesn't have analytical power but is merely empowered to get the desired results by hook or crook.
On the contrary, the intellect, function of the brain, with its faculties of memorizing studied and experiential information, logical reasoning, and imaginative extrapolation of information through application of logic is capable of judging right from wrong, if properly applied to a problem. But for the complexity of body and mind functions, it is impossible for the intellect to keep watch on everything under its overall command. It relies on the wisdom standing in between with the instruction of referring any matter to it whenever needed. Another reason for the limitation of the intellect is its being mono-tasking, while a multitude of processes keep ongoing every moment in the body of an individual. So, relying on wisdom is a compulsion of the intellect.

The Societal Scenario

For the reason explained above, an individual can truly know another individual through application of one's intellect only. Since, the intellect remains burdened with a huge workload all the time, the wisdom is empowered to know the person which plays its tricks for own vested interests. In the process, the other person is not understood well but presumed to be understood. Since the matter is not referred to the brain by the mind under the presumption, the brain doesn't get involved in the matter leaving it to the mind.

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

6 Elements of Harmonious Living


Every moment of your life is precious because you get it only once and it passes on whether you misuse it, disuse it or make the best out of it. Purpose of living a moment, every moment should be getting a happy feel. There are only 6 elements of living which are indispensable for each and every human-being. And, mind their order of priority as provided by their placements below.
Beware, the 6 subheads below may sound well-known to you through noises all around from vested interests to drive you crazy and loosen your purse for them, but the senses I attach to them are different from what you may be knowing. So, please check out precisely through the details.

Your Inspirations

Forces in the form of persons, nature and wherever you put your faith on are your inspirations like the air you breathe in every moment of your life. They are the sources of your spiritual strength you need every moment of your life. But these sources may be misguiding you too, if you have not chosen them by yourself but gone by advices of others, your routine education, or as told to you by your parents and social contacts. Religion is such a mischievous guide often thought to be an inspiring force.
Your parents must be the first and foremost inspirations for you but not their advices on other inspirations. Problem of modern parents is that either they are too busy to be too good, or too misguided to be too bad to you. Respect them as your parents, but judge their ways of life lest these corrupt your life too.
What is not realizable by you through your intellect and wisdom of your sensory organs can't be an effective inspiration to you. The best inspiration is one that moves with you every moment of your life and inspires you at your pace. Some books may pass this test, so are their authors - living or dead.
Some people opine that a spiritual guru is a must for uplifting force of life. This is sheer nonsense. If you need a real guru, go to your primary school teacher or someone like him - the greatest one to inspire you so far. For final guidance in this matter, ask your own spirit of life and none else.  

Your Spirit  

Apart from owning the physical persona, you are a spirit composed of your wisdom and intellect, built on your instincts, education and experiences so far. Your self-esteem, self-confidence, value system, etc are important attributes of your spirit. Respect these and keep these beyond bargains of your routine and commercial life.
Your spirit is your guide every moment of your life, particularly in moments of distress and excitements.    

Your Persona

Basically your health is your persona but it extends beyond that to what is usually known as your personality that includes everything in you including your spirit of life, discussed above. It is built through breathing in clean air, intakes of healthy food, body-care for protection from climatic extremities through clothing and shelter, physical hurts, etc and regular physical movements of your organs - for productive work, a creative endeavor or an exercise. Better use your physical movements for productive purposes and for saving yourself from paying for others services to you. Better be self-reliant as far as possible.
Your mental health is an important part of your persona as it is that of your spirit. It is ultimately determined by the concepts of life you pursue in your routines, relationships and profession. Being crazy, having a craving, getting excited or distressed often, etc are indicators of bad mental health. Some people consider a good memory as an indicator of mental health which I beg to differ seriously. In my view, it is immaterial what you forget but what you remember is important as an indicator of your mental health.
Outcomes of a healthy persona are your feeling healthy every moment, your impressive looks, and your sensuality for healthy relationships with your chosen persons. Never mind if you are not accommodative to everyone for your family and social relationships. None is made to accommodate all.   

Your Relationships

Each one of us has relationships, or is expected to have, in four sectors - with the self, within the family, within one's society, and with professional colleagues, superiors and subordinates. Anybody failing in having a sweet relationship with the self would fail in making any relationship of some value. Loving your own values is the criterion of relating to the self.
It is better to have good relationship with everyone coming in contact, but it is the best to take care of your value system through your relationships too. So, don't worry if you are at variance with some persons in your contacts.
Again, it is not important whom you drop from developing sweet relationships, but it is critical whom you keep in contacts. Ultimately, you are known by the company you keep. So, don't tarnish your image by pleasing everyone, be your real self in developing relationships.  

Your Aspirations

Etymologically as well as in practice, aspirations are set just opposite to inspirations - former for influencing the external world and the latter for getting influenced by the external world. Human life has a purpose of coming into existence and living for a long period of time for is intellectual evolution.
Every work has an intellectual value in it, respect it, enhance it and continue with it. This makes every moment of life a moment of intellectualism. So, live purposefully every moment - at home, at work and even during a relaxation. Set your goals on long term, medium term, short term and even for every momentary step of your life and move on with them.  

Your Economy

Human life has evolved differently from natural way of living, hence has economic considerations at every moment of it. Take care of your personal economy through working productively enough for a living and support to the family. But don't nullify yourself with the productivity syndrome - keep on working for wealth losing health and other pleasures of living. Keep a balance between personal, working, family and social life. For an average person, recommended durations are 12, 6, 4 and 2 hours, respectively, on an average in a day for a happy and contented lifestyle.    

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

An eBook Relevant to Each of You


The Self of a person is neither his/her body nor his/her mind, neither his/her physical health nor his/her mental health, neither his/her intrinsic characteristics nor his/her extrinsic conduct, but a sum total of all such things forcing him/her to think and lead his/her life maintaining his/her social relationships. Thus, 'The self' is the overall constitution of the person under consideration. It is even more individualistic than the person appears to be for the external world for each of the constituents of the self is individualistic too. If we want to pinpoint one thing that is the closest to the self is the individuality of the person that isolates him/her from all others yet makes him/her part of the society and environment surrounding him/her.

Psychology is the study of a human-being the way he/she thinks and relates him/herself with the external world through his/her speech and actions. Thinking of a person is most often different from his/her conduct, but still depending on it. This proves that the person intentionally creates this difference between this thoughts, words and actions. The psychology takes care of this fact of human life and incorporates in itself reasons of this differentiation.

This makes 'Psychology of the Self' a study of the wholesomeness of a person, leaving nothing to be discovered, to be developed, or to be deployed. Hence the study has to be vast, exhaustive and detailed and go through the minutest information on the person. This is possible only when an individual is specifically studied. Therefore, the eBook 'Psychology of The Self' doesn't deal with the specific information of any individual but paves way for reaching that information when the concepts provided in the volume are applied to a specific individual.

Such a vast study can't be carried out or written about in specific time-frame but goes on for a long period with new frontiers coming to light. The Author had been working on this project for 14 years and writing articles every now-and-then. The eBook is the collection of such articles of the Author written by him on the subject.